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Brats are not submissives

Oh my favorite misconception, and I think the most popular one. People assume brats are not submissive, and I get it. How can someone who blatantly disobeys their Dominant be seen as a submissive? Someone who challenges authority be submitting anything? The truth is, our disobedience is actually an act of obedience and a sign …

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Safer BDSM – Basics

At first - let's clear up a few misconceptions about both the practitioners and the practices of BDSM: BDSM is not just about getting someone into an inescapable situation and hurting them.People that practice BDSM are not rapists, psychos, or other nasty, monstrous types.BDSM is all about the fulfillment of deep and primal needs.It is …

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BDSM & KINK — Power Play Video Course

Welcome to Loveology University’s sneak preview video course on BDSM & Kink called Power Play.  This in-depth course will teach you all about BDSM, Kink, consent, negotiation, play tools and toys, bondage, sensation play, and so much more! What is BDSM & Kink? BDSM is an all-encompassing acronym for sexual power play. It includes power …

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SOME RULES FOR BDSM SUBMISSIVES

This piece of writing “categorizes” the different type of bondage players that one is likely to find in the BDSM scene, and is written from the viewpoint of those who attend BDSM parties, or correspond via the internet with others within the scene. It by no means covers all the different players within the scene, …

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My first threesome…

https://soundcloud.com/myerotica/samanthas-diary-season-01-threesome My first threesome with two guys happened in college.  Tom and Evan were in my film classes. We had to do a group project and just hit it off. We started hanging out doing things together. We went to movies, played video games, went snowboarding, and other things friends normally do. Neither one had …

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Breaking my Master’s rules

The thrill of disobedience. Podcast written by Jaiden MyErotica, read by Bitsy la Bourbon. A beautiful erotic sensual story of a Submissive who disobeyed her Master. https://soundcloud.com/myerotica/breaking-my-masters-rules I am a slave to my man’s every whim. Fucked hard she layed their for hours while her Master Fucked her pussy, locked onto the basement cold, cement …

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WHAT DOES TRUST LOOK LIKE IN BDSM?

What does Trust Look Like in BDSM?  For both parties, BDSM revolves around trust in terms of limits, wants, needs, and desires, which all require proper communication. It takes a considerable amount of time to gain trust in a Master and reciprocate trust in a Dominant one. Being flogged or strangled with no way out …

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SELF-DEVELOPMENT THROUGH BDSM

You can still grow tremendously as a BDSM practitioner without compromising your character or sexual preferences, and below we outline this very process. The ties are not rope they are the silk on your skin that heals your mind and your body Practicing BDSM requires an acute sense of self. From understanding our own sexuality …

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FAKE “DOMS” or REAL “DOMS”

Is this important? Hell, yes, indeed it is, because the difference is called "ABUSE", so if you don't listen, ladies and gents, there will be no-one that will understand you if you even tried to explain yourself to "Normal vanilla people". So, pay attention, and listen, read, research and make damn sure that "YOU", know …

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What is SUBMISSION – Here I go!

To Submit: …to overcome resistance to direction and yield one(self) to the will of anotherSubmission is an action of personal strength. To overcome internal resistance the submissive must control their desire or need to maintain personal control in the creation and delivery of all personal decisions. They must overcome the need to express or deliver …

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D/s Psychology

https://youtu.be/YlcVM0dFels https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCKSDdMR4IDXqh_AWcxn2d1A D/s Psychology It is a common misconception that the consensual power-exchange relationship (often referred to as D/s) is a facet of BDSM play. In reality, roles and limits must be clearly defined before any kinky play begins. This means that the D/s dynamic is not just the foundation of BDSM, but it is truly the …

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Dangers of BDSM – “TRIGGER WARNING”

https://youtu.be/yNjzT0rZTak Please note this video is Brave and Fair, BDSM, is a therapeutic lifestyle, and something I certainly adore because of my past life and what I get out of this lifestyle. We must remember to "Make sure or at least do your homework", and investigate weather a person has your back or your best …

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BRATS – SUBS THAT ARE FIESTY

Here is something a little different to understand what BDSM is like however, it is more about who is what and why, each person are unique because they have there own individuality that sometimes is difficult to explain who you are. https://youtu.be/kmfXQdiAAe0 Brats are more like Rebellous women or men, now they are Submissive, more …

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Listen to One another it’s called being Open

In transition of wondering if being a Dominant and Submissive is something you really want to be, why do I say this? Well, I say this because I believe we all get that moment to wonder if this will ever occur again in our lives, for me it seems it's a hit and miss, the …

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Male Sexuality And How Shame Hurts Everyone

Arden Leigh thinks we all need to release some of the shame we put on ourselves and on others. Last week I wrote a post on misogyny, and in particular how certain factions of men insist on perpetuating slut-shame, the idea of judging women as lesser for their sexual desires or actions. This week I …

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Breaking down the Walls…

https://youtu.be/Jrvf7kwSHgs?list=PLy-jX5EtVgBzVqA7oO4enMi-1OCvLtJ-g  Arden Leigh, finally a really great interview she states that a Submissive has a lot of power, this isn't about being Dominant it is however about Empowerment, a female within this lifestyle must understand who she is before being in a Dom/Sub relationship. She really did an amazing job in this interview it's pretty …

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I AM HUMAN…

https://youtu.be/9t7SclAXoQw Isn't delightful that those that think they don't like what they see ... they like what they see.... the lustful leer of another who sneaks a peak.... is tantalised by the unusual, the different, the delightfully yet sexual unique beauty of someone that looks and acts a little different than most... The Eye of …

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Lead a horse to Water but will it DRINK?

I would love to create a community that understood privacy, that each member had the same like-minded vision. Imagine the conversations of their own experiences, then you discover a comfortable energy that you can let your guard down and be yourself. As we get older and wiser we thirst a similar want and that is …

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Honesty is it that important?

So, is honesty in a relationship or even a kink the best policy? Well, of course it is, in many ways, like honesty is a strength within us because most are NOT so honest it is harder to be dishonest than to be honest, right. Now, we are only human and yes, we sometimes tell …

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Chill out , Not everything is as bad as you may think…

To feel is to be real so if you want to experience life then open those parts of you that make your hair stand up and go YIPES... As you get older you become wiser... I will let you know when that occurs until then we are ALL a working progress 🙂

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FIX yourself FIRST…

Remember Not all Submissives are the same and NOT all Dominants are the same... that is the difference of what this lifestyle offers... People are only crazy because of two reasons.. your either born with a disability or your NOT... Life is made of choices just try and do your best by making the best choice you can... if it works it works if it doesn't then let it go..

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Popular Fetishes – Role Play in Relationships

 BDSM, NEWS, RELATIONSHIPS, SEX ADVICE Role Play One of the most popular fetishes shown in movies and on television. Role-playing has long been a part of sex play. While once regarded as somewhat strange or even deviant, today we realise that role playing can be a completely healthy way to add variety to a couple’s sex life. Read …

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INTRODUCTION TO BDSM PRACTISES (PRT2)

BDSM is basically a power exchange between two consenting adults, involving role play, bondage, implements and different dynamics. It is about being yourself and not having to hide who you are and what you like, like some people have to in their everyday lives. BDSM is quite often is misconstrued, misunderstood and some of the …

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Etiquette and Protocol of BDSM

BDSM RULES..... Etiquette and protocol enable peaceful interactions and avoid unnecessary conflict. There's a well known anecdote that illustrates this: A wealthy society matron -- sometimes identified as Queen Victoria, sometimes identified as a Vanderbilt or Astor -- was hosting a lavish formal dinner. One of her guests was from another country and he was …

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The Four Stages to Exploring Your Fantasy

No-one wakes up one morning and says “check it out, I’m into kink now”. We come to all things through a process. A desire takes root, and we prod at it and probe it to see whether it will stick or is just a passing fancy, and how important it is to us. Most of …

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Informed Consent

If we were writing some kind of guide to the principles or philosophy of BDSM then “informed consent” would probably be our opening chapter. Nearly everything else we talk about, when you distill it, is based on informed consent. It’s the dividing line between BDSM and abuse, it’s the basis of SSC and it’s the …

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Discipline – The D in BDSM We Don’t Talk About

We all think we share a language when we talk about BDSM, but when you pry apart the abbreviation you’ll often hear people mumble their way through a definition of “discipline”. Bondage, D/s and SM seem straightforward, but what do we mean when we use the D-word? BEFORE WE USED “BDSM” Let’s blame it (at …

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Negotiation Sheet – Download it

Using the “Tonight, I want…!” Negotiation Sheet is simple: Give one copy to each person in the scene and ask them to fill it out. Ask questions! When you say you want spanking, does that have to be limited to your butt, or can I smack your chest too? Discuss the terms, and maybe write …

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Looking Deeper into Why BDSM May Benefit Our Mental Health

A significant piece of academic research, published in 2013 by Wismeijer and van Assen, suggests that individuals involved in BDSM subcultures or self-identified as “kinkster” may be prone to have better mental health than the average population. Psychologists and researchers from the Netherlands carried out a qualitative study with a total of 1300 questionaires sent …

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Take the Test which one are you?

I did the test and I am the Naughty Naughty SUB We know our followers love personality tests and BDSM quizzes. It’s always fun to find out more about who we are. Of course, online tests and quizzes are not definitive of our personality, but they can be fun for self-discovery. Perhaps you’ll just be …

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A DIRTY MIND….

The art of loving who you are with better company not everyone will understand however, not everyone is you right! https://youtu.be/Q6g6ryLYoQ0 A Dirty Mind is actually A Normal State of mind We are born male and female this means we only identify what we are taught by our parents, by our friends growing up and …

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It is so important to Plan ahead your BDSM Scenarios

Planning BDSM Ahead An amazing part of BDSM is that it entails people planning their scenarios ahead of time. They plan to see who will have more power and who will be in charge when engaging in sexual acts. This is different from what critics say. Many critics argue that BDSM only encourages the man …

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Why Sex Therapy?

Why Sex Therapy? Well, someone has to do it, may as well be me, right? So, I have decided to go back to University, to complete my Diploma of Counselling, then complete a sex therapy course or two, three and maybe 4 who knows. Sex therapy is a talk therapy that helps individuals and couples …

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Naked Truth

This is the naked truth. Look around and you will see all those tormented souls, struggling under the pressure of responsibility - melancholic, depressed, stressed out, looking for purpose and meaning. Society leaves them no other option. It tells them dignity lies in bearing the responsibility - for themselves, for their jobs, for their relationships, …

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BDSM Therapy – FOR WAR VETERAN, MIKE

This podcast is worth a listen - with Mike, who returns from IRAQ after the war . Mike was homeless, unsettled, didn't fit into societies "normal", he felt like he differed from most people, he was led to a place that looked like a "Dungeon", which is where he discovers his real self and learns …

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Being Dominated by Rope releases me…

Have you ever wondered what Roping really is? This week’s guests on Smart Sex, Smart Love are rope anarchists and kink organizers, Doug and Jo from miropes.com Best known as experts on incorporating rope into sex and bedroom bondage, Doug and Jo chat all things bondage and #MeToo with Joe Kort, breaking the taboos and …

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Sex outside the BOX

https://youtu.be/0DqGuyHLSrU Dr. Neil is known internationally for his clinical expertise and research on Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism (BDSM).   In addition, to helping countless individuals and couples with BDSM related issues, Neil has appeared as an expert witness on the subject of BDSM and is a published author on the …

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Corvid 19 , Please Stop so we can socialise and grow again

Ever watched the Never ending story with David Bowie, well that movie was made many moons ago and it was based as the Premier of Fantasy Movies and we Loved it. However, today is not as surprising nor is it a fairy tale of dogs flying with little girls and David Bowie looking like an …

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My opinion on Dom & Subs rights and sexual openess

There was a post on facebook the subject was Dom inviting another alpha into the bedroom to share the submissive. This is a very interesting subject and is a subject that seems to come up often especially when such a dynamic connection between a man and a women and how they should interact with one …

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Hard truth !!!

https://highline.huffingtonpost.com/articles/en/gay-loneliness/ I added a post that I read just this week I am a female married I have lived a very different life that most people wouldn't however I live it because I chose it. I have seen been around so many different people in my life and met the most amazing and dreadful ones …

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The 9 Common BDSM Sub Types

When you think BDSM you think Dom/me type and subtypes, but how many are there really. The most common being sub and slave but there are some more common types that people relate to more then those too. I truly believe in educating myself and others to explore sexuality and BDSM is included in that. …

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Appreciation for our dearest like-minded soul friends…

Imagine your 55-65 in age there are 2 of you in very different places... However, both are older, and both end up in Hospital, one has Cancer...and is given 6 months to live? Now imagine if the one with Cancer keeps his secret to himself....and decides to live for the moment. We must always remember …

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Imagine a Life without an Identity

https://highline.huffingtonpost.com/articles/en/gay-loneliness/ I added a post that I read just this week I am a female married I have lived a very different life that most people wouldn't however I live it because I chose it. I have seen been around so many different people in my life and met the most amazing and dreadful ones …

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Spanking Babble

There is a fine line between pleasure and pain and for many that line is blurred entirely when it comes to spanking. Whether performed as simply a playful pat on the behind, to pep up another sexual act or as a BDSM scene, there is no denying that some people just can’t get enough of …

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The Journey Begins

Welcome to my journey my name is withheld due to many reasons for my own self I would like to take you on my own journey in discovering how being a submissive helped me understand myself first, then I want you to join me in how this life style can change a persons trauma into …

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